What Holds Us Together

What Holds Us Together: Reframing Addiction is a deeply compassionate, trauma-informed exploration of addiction as an emotional survival strategy-not a moral failure, not a disease, but a ritual of coherence. Written with rare clarity and tenderness, this book challenges conventional recovery narratives by asking a different kind of question: not 'Why can’t they stop?' but 'What were they trying to hold together?'Author Aubrey Perin blends personal insight, narrative psychology, and lived experience to offer a reframing that is both intellectually grounded and emotionally accessible. With lyrical prose and steady rhythm, the book guides readers through the anatomy of addiction-its rituals, its logic, its collapse-and offers a new language for those navigating its aftermath.Structured in four parts-Foundations, Collapse, Recovery and Reconstruction, and For the Witness-the book traces how addiction begins not in chaos but in structure, in the quiet rituals that once brought safety and control. It explores how those rituals harden over time, why they eventually fail, and what it means to lose them when they’ve become part of your identity.This is not a manual for sobriety. It is not a clinical model. It is an offering of language and clarity for anyone who has lived inside the spiral or loved someone who has. Whether you’re beginning your own return from addiction or trying to understand someone else’s pain, this book meets you without judgment. It honors the emotional logic of survival and helps make sense of what’s often left unsaid in traditional recovery spaces: the grief, the shame, the collapse-and the slow, steady reconstruction of meaning.Perfect for readers seeking trauma-aware insight, emotional safety, and a deeper understanding of addiction beyond behavior, What Holds Us Together is not a story of breaking down. It’s a story of how we rebuild.