Melanie Smith
Do you find yourself troubled by understanding why some people simply blow up their anger at you? Do you feel like you’re losing your own compassion when you’re communicating? Having a hard time expressing what you genuinely feel and eventually blow things up for no apparent reason? Do people often mistake the way you’re communicating, and they think you’re aggressive when the truth is you’re not?If you’re very sure to answer YES to all these questions, then this book is for you! This book is your ultimate tool to learn how to manage anger, increase empathy, honesty, and communicate compassionately!Nonviolent communication encourages us to express ourselves differently by becoming attentive to our own feelings and emotions, while at the same time considering the needs of our conversational partner. In doing so, NVC moderates our defensive and aggressive reactions. In a couple, it allows us to communicate in a caring way to establish a serene relationship with our partner.For better understanding what NVC is, here are some of the subjects that will help you along the way:·     Four Components of NVC·     The Other Part of NVC - Empathy·     Comparison of Violent and Nonviolent Communication·     Managing Anger Using Nonviolent Communication·     Communicate Compassionately and Emotional IndependenceAnd many more interesting topics that will surely enhance the way you communicate effectively.     Social learning and education have taught us to judge, evaluate, rather than to understand how we function and, above all, how the other functions. Nonviolent communication aims to lead us to communicate without judging.Nonviolent communication is to be used in all circumstances of our lives. Within the couple, it is always a source of conflict resolution. To start this new way of communicating well, we must first learn to listen to what the other says, without preparing his answer before he has finished his sentence, by making efforts to position ourselves in our adult ego in daily exchanges. By systematically avoiding using the accusing 'You' and the verb 'being' when we are about to make an unpleasant comment.This NVC is also of great interest in exchanges with children. For example, a child who behaves childishly will never be told, 'You’re dumb', but 'Right now you’re behaving foolishly, even though I know you’re smart'.It is by practicing nonviolent communication that you will regain the pleasure of exchanging with your spouse. Using positive sentences, you value the other person and quickly find common ground in a favorable position. 3
