Ralph McDesmond
What if the conflict tearing at you right now is the way you are being built?Most books about hardship promise a way out. This one offers something rarer and more useful: a way through.Written from what the author calls 'the porch on the other side of a long life,' In Life Is War traces a single pattern he spent decades learning to see, in his own losses, in the lives of the famous and the ordinary, and in the wisdom of East and West. He states it as five turning sentences:In Life is War. In War is Peace. In Peace is Love. In Love is God. In God is Life.Five stages. One cycle that never ends but keeps deepening. Each ending is a beginning.You’ll walk it through people you won’t forget. Nelson Mandela, remade by twenty-seven years he never chose. A hospice nurse who learned what love actually is by sitting with the dying. Soldiers who climbed out of their trenches on Christmas Eve, 1914, and shook hands with the men they’d been killing. A couple whose divorce became the start of something, not the end. Alongside them: the Bhagavad Gita, the Tao, the Stoics, Viktor Frankl, and the neuroscience of what struggle does to the brain and body.This is not positive thinking. The author says plainly what most books won’t: not everyone is remade by what they suffer, and he refuses to pretend otherwise. What he offers instead is orientation. When you know where you are in the cycle, you know what is being asked of you.The book closes with five practical sets of exercises, so the ideas move off the page and into how you live.For readers of Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, Ryan Holiday, Pema Chödrön, and anyone who has survived something and suspects there is meaning in the wreckage they can’t yet see.If a stage of your life you keep treating as a problem is actually a passage, this book is the map.
